Just about a year ago, I entered the University and also the Xavier's Honor's Dormitory for Men where I had encountered many personalities, attitudes, contrasting characteristics and traits. Living in such complexity, one will need to be sociable enough to interact with these people he'll be with most of the time. I, knowing the real me, am really a friendly type of person, easy to get with and game all the time. But as the cliché goes, You cannot please everybody,” others find me two-sided, meaning- I don't have consistencies and playing safe in relationships. Befriending two completely opposite group of individuals and thus be turned between them and coming to a point about deciding whom between the two you'll go with. An event that once happened to my life.
When I entered the dormitory, the first dormers I get close to were the group of Kuya Arman, Ren, Loed, all are upperclassmen. For the first half of the semester, we've been always together from eating breakfast until the rest of the night, having our midnight snacks. With them, I felt the happiness of having friends and companions and this had gone stronger as we come to know each other deeply. I become closest to Kuya Arman whom we fondly call Kuya Choc – a nice and loving person on the good side but so sensitive and seriously possessive with his friends. This, though he really didn't speak out to us forces us to just focus on our group of friends and not with any other.
Our companionship and togetherness was put to an end when I and Kuya Choc had a very simple fight, just over closing the television and putting the keys and remote control upstairs. How stupid we were, I realized. He asked to do it but I refused to do so. I, then, hurriedly go upstairs first but waited him closing it. After that and starting to go up, I asked him if he is angry but I heard no reply from him. I just then kept silent and thought his anger will just fade away the next day. But from then on, he started not talking to me and I to him, and treated each other as though invisible and nonexistent.
During that span of our long cold war, I became close to my other fellow dormers , Kuya Krephel and also Kuya Joel. Kuya Joel was Kuya Choc's best-friend-turned-best-enemy and Kuya Krephel, an adversary of him that he hated much. This was the scenario for the rest of the first semester, I go with Kuya Choc's adversaries and he with his old friends. I, myself, don't hate him but I don't have the courage or maybe I just don't want to ask apology to him. He hates me not just because of what I did to him but also also befriending his enemies.
When the second semester came, there was nothing new with my ongoing friendship and cold war until we had our dorm's first apostolate for that semester, a housebuilding at Balatas, where a 360 degrees turned of events happened. Kuya, surprisingly smiled and talked to me but I didn't easily reacted much to that scene and hadn't minded it for I thought reconciliation for us will never ever happen. But this contrite acts continued. A new friendship started and our three month long cold war ended. Just a few days after it, I had known that Kuya Choc and Kuya Ren, his best friend that time was already on quarrel even before we had reconciled. This had even heated up the next happenings.
And as progress, we got used of this scene. I was close to Kuya Choc's circle of friends, only four of us left and at the same time also Kuya Joel, Krephel and Kuya Ren. Knowing Kuya Choc's possessiveness, I just did not mind and continued befriending his so called outcasts. Until, for the second time around(that's already enough) he again started a cold war, and guess what the reason, I just hadn't gone with them during the breakfast, lunch and dinner and instead go with Kuya Ren and Joel. My getting close with them, I know added up to his anger to me. I tried to save our on-and-off friendship. I initiated reconciliation and gave a peace offering for him but nothing happened. I gave up but still hoping someday, unexpectedly, he'll talk to me and we'll be friends again.
I thought it's because of Kuya Choc's possessiveness but blaming myself for all the things that happened, I realized that it's my two-sidedness that wrecked our friendship. Possessiveness is the suspect but two-sidedness is the killer.
note: this my second essay in ENGS001: a narration...
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